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Nude Selfies

Sending sexual messages and pictures is now common. For some people, it’s just part of exploring their sexuality or part of flirting with a boyfriend, girlfriend or friend. All good fun, right? It is if you want to do it, don’t feel pressured, and don’t get bombarded with unwanted images.

And it’s not new!

People throughout history have made and shared sexual images, it just got easier to share them when digital photography and the internet was invented!

 

   

Though these images are from history, they don’t look so different from modern day porn or selfies – the poses, the over-exaggerated body parts!

Meeting people, sharing chat, ideas and images on social media is mostly great and can give you the freedom to be who you want to be:

But it can be limiting too – what’s expected of males and females isn’t always equal. Even if you’ve never watched porn, you’ll have seen ‘pornified’ images on social media - poses people do on their profiles and the type of images people send or request from each other in nude selfies. These are all originally from pornography. Girls’ bodies are expected to look a particular way and are judged more harshly than boys if they don’t fit that expectation. Girls and boys can feel pressured to be having sex and to send sexually explicit images but girls are more likely to be thought of as ‘slags’ if they do.

If you’re feeling pressured to send selfies, the Childline Zipit App is a useful tool to have on your phone.

For a lot of people it is good flirty fun when it’s a private message to someone they trust not to share it. But can you ever be 100% sure it won’t be passed on? Do you want that image to re-surface when a future employer looks at your online presence? Hmm, probably not!

So, think about how identifiable you are in your nude selfies; it is safer to send images that don’t show your face or any birthmarks/identifiable features.

You don’t want Dee’s experience:

If a sexually explicit image of you has leaked out, there are ways you can try and stop it going further, if not get rid of it completely. The Think you Know website explains how to remove content from Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, Tumblr, Kik, Snapchat, Vine, Twitter and Askfm.

Some stuff to consider before you send.
  1. It is important to remember that it is your choice. You should never be pressured into doing or sending something you don’t want to.
  2. If you are with someone who puts pressure on you to send sexual messages, but you don’t want to, you could be in an abusive relationship. If you’re worried or want to find out more, visit our page on Healthy Relationships.
  3. If you are in a relationship with the person you are messaging, and you break up, can you be sure that they won’t send your images to their friends or post them publicly online?
  4. Would you be happy for all of your class, or your partner’s friends, to see what you’re about to send?
  5. Are you identifiable in your photos? It is safer to send images that don’t show your face or any birthmarks/identifiable features.
  6. Is the phone being used by the person you’re sexting 100% secure at all times or is there a chance that someone else might unlock their phone and find your messages?
  7. If you meet someone online and decide to start sending them nude selfies, are you absolutely sure they are who they say they are? It’s easy to pretend to be someone you are not online
  8. Could you be putting yourself at risk of blackmail or bullying? If someone has private images of you or messages from you, they could use them against you in the worst possible ways
  9. You could also be vulnerable to attracting unwanted attention ; sex offenders, for example, are often experts when it comes to finding these images and distributing them
  10. Are you breaking the law? Sexting can feel harmless but receiving or sending indecent pictures of a person under 18 is illegal, even if they were taken with their permission